From Conflict to Cooperation

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Week Four: Collaboration

We started by checking in with each other, and talking about needs for the last session.
We grounded ourselves with some breathing and gentle stretches.
We discussed the Collaborative Problem Solving model: (1) Kids do well when they can; (2) When kids are not doing well, it is because they are struggling to meet our expectations; (3) Identify lagging skills and unsolved problems; (4) Solve problems proactively and collaboratively.
We practiced using the script: "I've noticed that you're struggling with _______. What's up?" Empathize empathize empathize. "The thing is __________. How can we solve this problem?"
We talked about how this practice makes us feel - "My parents didn't collaborate with me and I turned out okay. This makes me feel resentful." Or "I hear my parents' voices in my head, judging me."
We closed with a Circle of Courage.

What does this stir up for me?

What do I tell myself about who I am as a parent when my child doesn't obey?

Why is changing the way I react important to me?

Reminders:

Slow down.
Slow down again.
Focus on empathy and connection.
Continue to empathize until everyone agrees that their feelings and needs have been understood.
ONLY then explore solutions. Let your child take the first crack at offering a solution.
Celebrate our peacemaking.

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